“When two people decide to get a divorce, it isn’t a sign that they don’t understand one another, but a sign that they have at last begun to.” – Helen Rowland, Author
There are many reasons people decide to get a divorce. Does “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus” belong on the list? Probably, but breaking that down further leads to an interesting look into the causes of divorce.
Most problems in a successful marriage don’t get resolved through arguing, instead they get managed through compromise. In a marriage filled with stress however winning your argument is the tactic most often used. Up to 60% of respondents in a survey taken by marriage researchers in England claim failure to resolve key problems were the number one reason people divorced.
Marriage infidelity among men is high on the list as well. 25% of men report having at least one affair in their marriage.
Poor Communication: Money is the one thing that people say they argue about most in marriage, followed by children (Stanley & Markman, 1997). But, of greater importance is not what people argue about but rather how they argue. Communication between you and your partner regarding a disagreement must be resolved through negotiation and compromise. Winning an argument cannot be viewed by a spouse as a victory.
Certainly there are numerous reasons for divorce not mentioned above: religion, interference by third parties, differences in culture, intimacy issues, drug and alcohol use, money and careers to name only a few.
When the decision is made that the married couple would lead happier more productive lives if they were not together, a divorce handled by a competent experienced attorney will help make the dissolution of the marriage as painless as possible.